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  1. Are you sure you're eating enough? You should track your calories for a while. You may be surprised. Also, eating 5-6 small meals throughout the day may help with the hunger issues. And, when you get hungry, chug a glass of water. Many times when we think we're hungry we're really just dehydrated. If, after drinking water, you're still hungry, fill up on low-cal options like celery, broccoli, an apple, etc. Maybe have a cup of flavored tea before bed? That way the liquid helps with the fullness you're looking for and the flavor is a treat.
    If you track your food and find that you are eating more than you should be then I'd recommend that any time you get your food (especially when eating out) automatically (and immediately) take away 25% of what you would have normally eaten. Eating slower might help too as you'll be able to realize when you're full instead of just shoving it in quickly.
    You may want to get a pedometer. Use it to track your walking and work up to walking 10000 steps/day. That's approximately 5 miles.
    Finally, there is nothing wrong with down time. You have to have it in order to retain your sanity. Give yourself permission to take an hour a day (or whatever time) to just do nothing. You don't have to use it if you don't need it, but if you do, it's there. You may find that since it's an option you might want it less than before.

  2. welcome. I do not think you should start a diet. You have a history of obsessive behavior with food. You sound like a reasonable person. Perhaps a little planning would help you. Don't have junk food available to snack on. Have healthy food available. I wish I had the magic bullet cure for stress. Personally, I try to remind myself of how much better I have it than 95% of the world, but when I'm throwing a pity party, that doesn't always work. Nature helps. Watching my bird feeder, looking at garden design books and magazines, buying myself flowers (daffodils are cheap right now), taking a walk. Wish I could be more helpful. Best wishes.

  3. uh ya good advice to a point

  4. Welcome to the forum...I wonder, what are your stats, height, weight, BMI, percent muscle mass if available, etc.

  5. my advice is to go to your school's health services and get help for everything you describe below - the recovery from anorexia, the tendency to binge, coping with stress, how to start an exercise habit that doesn't leave you more stressed, and help with coming up with an approach to eating that doesn't trigger old, bad habits.
    i think exercise would help with your stress. it seems like you are engaging in a solitary activity when you go to the gym now. most schools have classes and programs for recreation. giving your brain and body something else to learn about will help your anxiety, the social interaction will help your mood, and the movement will release nice neurotransmitters that help chill you out. i took canoeing, juggling and archery at my school - all 3 were well worth the time.
    and lastly, i have found it easiest to maintain my weight now without counting calories by trying for 5-7 servings of vegetables a day, and 1-2 servings of fruit. that plus eating 4-6 times a day to help keep my blood sugar (and my mood) even, and staying away from refined carbohydrates that create a blood sugar spike/crash cycle (and ends up with my nerves even more on edge) could be a way for you to look at reordering your eating habits to promote a healthy weight, without triggering your old disorder.
    go to your health center. really. they're going to be able to help you. your problems are exactly why they are there.

  6. I think going to your college counseling center is a great idea.
    Also look into getting a nutritionist at your school who can help you design a program that will be healthy and minimize the risk of relapse into anorexia.

  7. different advice in my experience, boosting my own self esteem has been a helpful part of recovery. It may be hard to feel great about your body always- even when I've looked amazing, I've had self doubt. But if you feel really great about other parts of your life, you may not focus as much on this.
    maybe try to add in some volunteer work. I understand being busy in college as I just finished, but i also know i was happiest and least critical of myself when i was busiest.
    by volunteering, not only are you taking up some of your time that you used to get down on yourself, you can boost your image of yourself. for me, volunteering at an animal shelter is a great way to not only know i'm doing something good, but to have fun as well, cause who doesn't love animals.
    maybe find something like this, on or off campus, that works for you!

  8. Being in school can be stressful During one of my hardest semesters, I took a yoga class right in the middle of my day. It helped with stress and weight loss. I changed nothing else and dropped a few inches.
    Also, it taught me to breathe correctly. Previously, I had been breathing in a very shallow way that can actually make someone's stress worse.
    I hate counting calories, too. It may benefit you to make a meal plan for the day or week and calculate the overall calories when you do it. After that, don't think twice about it.
    Good luck to you!

  9. anorexia is like alcoholism; one is always in recovery, and never cured. Get therapy, get a group together to support you. Work with a doctor that understands eating disorders. People with eating disorders are often "wired" differently and perceive their bodies falsely. My sister at 5'6" kept telling us that she was "just 5 or 10 pounds overweight" and just had to lose this last bit. She said this at 120 pounds, at 110 pounds and kept saying it at 92 pounds when she could barely walk. Please see a doctor before you make any changes to your life. A counselor should be able to help with anxiety issues as well.

  10. support I can relate to a lot of what you're saying. I just graduated college and also have a history of eating issues and am "recovered." I'm struggling with some of the same issues, so feel free to contact me if you ever want to share support online.

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