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  1. I was manorexic at 16-17 I got my 5'7 body from 245lbs (yes, I know) to 145lbs. Nothing I did could get any lighter. I would ask my guy friends how much they weighed and see if I could "beat" them. It backed fired. 6 years later, I was back at 245 and 3 years I'm averaging about 175 but 2 inches taller. I could get down to 165lb but I need to eat cookies and a burger every now and then.

  2. beyond which point? the point that you are at now?
    if what you are saying is that you are struggling with losing more weight, that your efforts seem half-hearted and you aren't seeing the results that you thought you wanted, then my suggestion is to take a couple of weeks and eat and exercise purposefully at a maintenance level. let yourself be free of the should ofs and the guilt so that you can be at a better place mentally to decide what it is you really want for yourself - and that's the whole package self, not just your scale weight or passing desire to eat pizza.

  3. Those shoulds are awful I'm referring to the point where you told yourself (as many do) that your body just won't get any lighter...for whatever reason (genetics etc.) Of course this is not true, but it's funny when I look around, seemingly all the women in my family are similar weight/height.
    My question is: how much further did WIFO take themselves BEYOND this point in their weightloss journey? (unless of course they decided to stay there, which is where I've been lately.)
    Thanks for your advice.

  4. Correction: DIFO not WIFO. That's another handle!

  5. well i didn't tell myself that. i had a general idea that when i hit around a size 14, i'd probably stop and/or my body would stop me. but that didn't happen - i was at a size 12 before i ever managed to buy a pair of pants in a 14.
    i hit a point around 160 pounds where i wasn't paying significant attention to my diet and was slipping back into some older habits. and at that time i did what i suggested to you - i took a break and ate at maintenance for awhile to figure out if i was happy where i was, or just comfortable and slightly inert.
    after a few weeks, i realized that i wanted to keep going.
    so i did. i am now quite a bit lighter than all of the women in my family have been at this age with the exception of my great aunt.
    i have no idea if you are setting an unreasonable expectation for yourself or if you are at a weight you feel positive and happy with now. but i do know your body is a reflection of how you live your life as much as if not more so than what your genes say. if all the women in your family have a similar lifestyle, similar values and a simlar way of approaching food, then it would make sense that their bodies are similar to each other.

  6. mine i didn't tell myself that. i had a general idea that when i hit around a size 14, i'd probably stop and/or my body would stop me. but that didn't happen - i was at a size 12 before i ever managed to buy a pair of pants in a 14.
    -- similar here, only it was size 12, which I passed, and didn't believe I could. thanks for reminding me of this
    i hit a point around 160 pounds where i wasn't paying significant attention to my diet and was slipping back into some older habits. and at that time i did what i suggested to you - i took a break and ate at maintenance for awhile to figure out if i was happy where i was, or just comfortable and slightly inert.
    -- did this too, but decided I needed to achieve my initial goal, and then create a new goal, which is where I'm at now. gah
    after a few weeks, i realized that i wanted to keep going.
    so i did. i am now quite a bit lighter than all of the women in my family have been at this age with the exception of my great aunt.
    -- I'm lighter than females in my family, but they are catching up. I still believe I have more to achieve.
    i have no idea if you are setting an unreasonable expectation for yourself or if you are at a weight you feel positive and happy with now. but i do know your body is a reflection of how you live your life as much as if not more so than what your genes say. if all the women in your family have a similar lifestyle, similar values and a simlar way of approaching food, then it would make sense that their bodies are similar to each other.
    -- yes, thankfully, it's reasonable and within reach. I'm working my my doctor and within medical guidelines. I agree that the body is a reflection of how you live your life, and I would add that I'm much more a behaviorist than a genetic fatalist, thankfully. I believe that lifestyle makes it or breaks it. Like I said to Elaine, I think it's unreasonable of me to expect change when I'm not exerting more changes myself.
    I like your idea of taking a maint. break to release all these shoulds. thank you

  7. I have been "stuck" here for 3 years I set an original goal and met it 3 1/2 years ago. I then sent another goal -- for another 15 pounds.. and never budged a bit from the first goal.
    It finally dawned on me that I didn't really care whether I met the second goal or not. I was (and am) very happy where I am.
    I know if I put my head down and focused like I did the first time around, I could do it.
    I just don't want to.
    ::::shrug::::

  8. Same here I reached my initial goal, and won't budge further. I suppose I have to change things up if I want to see changes. I'm not a logical thinker that way, I suppose!

  9. that's the thing about change once you've been living with it for awhile, it stops being the achievement it once was.
    longer, harder, deeper, farther, faster, heavier, stronger.
    it's not what you've done that matters.
    it's what you're going to do next.
    you can do it, snooo :)

  10. :D I really needed the nudge....out of this illogical thinking, ty. you're my weightloss guru, chi

  11. way to go! You sound like you lost alot of weight. Be proud of your accomplishments!! The media seems to put to much pressure on achieving, and maintaing, a certain weight. Some of which is not realistic. Don't be discourage!! Don't listen to the negative voices, either internally or externally. If you are able to loose that much weight, you can do anything if you put your mind to! You, go, girl!!!

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